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Cunnilingus- Inventory of Parts : They All Work

– you should read the previous post before diving into this more technical second part –

As happens with manual stimulation, the most common mistake of the eager novice is to focus too narrowly on what is assumed to be the most important piece of real estate. Every square millimeter of a woman’s sexual anatomy is capable of responding to oral stimulation and will do so reliably if given half a chance. Going straight for the clit and licking, flicking, sucking, and slurping madly away at it is much more apt to produce irritation, both physical and emotional, than satisfaction. Let’s start by reconnoitering the entire terrain, up close and personal.

Five basic components that respond to oral stimulation: labia, clit, vestibule, fourchette (where lips meet, near anus) and surrounding musculature, and vagina. Lips like to be pinched between the teeth and pulled, or sucked firmly. In addition to suction, clits take to being squeezed being the teeth. Be sure to keep the hood in place and gently scrape the shaft and gland with the edges of your teeth. Like the cut edge of an exposed cable, there are 8000 nerve ending in a clit, so the SLOW, gentle drag of a sharp, wet tooth edge is exquisitely intense. Covering your uppers with a hooked lip is never a bad idea. The vestibule, being the most sensitive part, needs gentle, moist contact. When taking a mouthful, your tongue will naturally rest there. Grasp the clitoris between your upper teeth and tongue and gently nod your head, subtly stimulating the vestibule with each movement.  The fourchette responds well to licking and the contact of your face pressed against it, stimulating the important muscles of the pelvic floor. Your tongue won’t reach very far into the vagina, and it doesn’t have to. As you press your face to the fourchette, your tongue will penetrate just far enough to stimulate the nerves at the entrance. Wide, circular, lapping motions with a flat tongue feel good there too.

Start with just your hands, massaging partner’s fourchette, and the muscles around it until she’s fully relaxed and starting to move her hips. Before seeking out all hidden treasures, begin by taking the entire vulva into your mouth in a slow, powerful, sucking embrace with lips and tongue and working all that sensitive tissue around in leisurely swirls. You’ll quickly discover, as with ikea furniture, that no extra parts are included in the package; everything serves a purpose. Likewise, your own inventory includes more than one relevant subassembly. Mouths work best in concert with hands, and tongues can’t do their best work without the support of knowing lips and teeth.

If the intended mood is playful and teasing, spend time massaging and manipulating the labia, clitoral hood, and the muscles surrounding the vaginal opening until she’s pulling at your hair or other variations (really bucking her hips, etc) demonstrating her urgent need. Do things to her outer labia that men like having done to their scrotums: pulling, pinching, twisting, stretching, and tugging. Stretch her flesh slowly and firmly.

Put an arm around her hip with your hand resting on her stomach, or reach up and grab a breast or her hand. The secret is to stick with any one move until you feel a response from her before making the next one.

As the heat rises, place your upper jaw across her pubic bone at the base of the clit and lower jaw over the introitus (vaginal opening). Rest the entire weight of your head on her mound and nuzzle slowly, applying the gentlest of suction, perhaps combined with the smallest of nodding motions. Breathing in, pull the vulva into mouth, releasing it as exhaling. Continue until she breathes with you.

Something else that works well is to place your lower teeth at the base of the clit and, with your upper teeth, bite the flesh above her vulva as you move your chin toward her belly button an inch or two. This stretches the clit, and should feel fantastic.

All it comes down to is that cunnilingus is not a competitive sport- it has no single goal but rather a multiplicity of purposes. For some, it leads to orgasms as nothing else can. For others, it’s a vital element of foreplay, without which penetrative intercourse is essentially a labor of love. Some men are highly aroused by the intimate contact of mouth on vulva. Others practice cunnilingus as a form of worship, meant to convey a strong desire to please and appreciation of the opportunity to do so. But keep in mind that you don’t ‘give’ your partner orgasms; you can only offer assistance through your attention to her desires. At its best, it should be easy, mutual pleasure. The exact form that pleasure takes is a discovery you’ll make along the way.