Archive for May, 2008

Was your sex health program at school good?

May 30, 2008

Personally mine were AWFUL.

The first time I ever had a class in sexual health was in junior high. Our industry tech teacher taught the class. The back of our class room even had another class working and cutting wood building race cars, all While we are at the front of the class learning how to put a condom on a banana.

Later on in high school I had another course and our principal was suppose to teach the course but he was to shy to teach it. Therefor we had a substitute teacher every class and nothing continued from the class before. He would ask us to write questions one day and nothing every got answered the next class.

During my 12 year school career those are the only class’s I had on sexual education.

What was your sexual health program like?

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Sthenolagnia: Muscle Fetishism

May 28, 2008

Is a fetish defined as ‘sexual arousal from demonstration of strength or muscles’. The term was coined by the German psychologist Magnus Hirschfeld in the late 1800s. It is found among both males and females, and there are a significant number of websites who cater to their interests. A related fetish is cratolagnia, which is sexual arousal from display of strength

Female muscle growth (FMG) is a fantasy genre involving muscular growth of a woman. Many who enjoy these fantasies are attracted to Female bodybuilding or other muscular women. This interest frequently centers on the biceps. FMG is related to the growth fantasies giantess and breast expansion fetishism. This fantasy is sometimes about an equalization or reversal of the stereotypical power relationship (that some people imagine/take for granted) in a heterosexual couple.

Literature, art

In texts and movies, the plot device that enables the transformation is magical, scientific, extraterrestrial, or even hypnosis. Some FMG fantasy participants will imagine themselves as participating in the transformations, while others prefer to fantasize as spectators. Marvel Comics She-Hulk is a popular representation of FMG fantasy.

http://www.femalemusclefactory.com/

If you are turned on by this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2lV12PDHr8&NR=1, then you should check out some blogs: http://www.brawna.org. Popular titles include: Muscle Impossible, Patty Becomes a Female Sumo Wrestler, and Revenge of the Soccer Mom.

Talk Nerdy to Me….. the sequel

May 27, 2008

It is inevitable that relationships are going to evolve in modern time. I always assumed that this would mean the chasing game would get a bit easier or, guys and girls would start to understand each other but no. We’ve just evolved to hiding behind a computer screen. The Internet is here and its here to stay.

I feel like our generation lost our personal connection with people. We are constantly texting, messaging and chatting as major forms of communication. This leads to a whole world wind of problems for relationships. What ever happened to the Internet just being “the Internet”. Now days… if you don’t change your status or check your messages every couple of hours an argument can brew and it doesn’t stop there. Ever try and talk about something serious in a text message? Its impossible to get your point across yet we still converse this way even though we know the person, we still find comfort in hiding behind that screen no matter how small it is.

The Internet can be a great place to meet people, or a cold and faceless way to get rid of them. With these networking tools people allow them selves to take risks with people they normally wouldn’t or people in different area codes. It creates a comfort zone which allows you to talk to someone you would normally think is out of your league. I’ve met, hooked up and dated people I never would of originally thought I had a chance with all thanks to this modern world we live in. For the most part online talking is a good prequel to spending face to face time. Most first meetings are incredibly awkward but the Internet allows you to move beyond that to some what of a friendship before tripping over your own feet in person.

What goes up must come down and even though relationships have evolved so has the modern break up. I feel that the best way to break up with someone is in person but online can also be fairly useful in communicating without getting angry and letting emotions get in the way of getting your point across. This is only effective after the official in person break up has happened. Actually breaking up online… really lets face it… its the cowards way out. The worst part about these break ups is if this person is part of any of these online communities. Its almost like dating someone you work with and then its over. You have to see this person everyday and hear about them from co-workers. The Internet makes you feel the same. News feeds of what that person is up to or seeing their face in random pictures with, now, mutual friends. The one saving grace that real life doesn’t and the world of technology is the ever so amazing “delete key”. In a matter of seconds you can delete them from your life and start to move on.

Moving on has never been easier. These days we literally have the whole world at our finger tips. Filling in that missing void is as easy as just flirting online with the right person. Companionship is incredibly easy to find in a virtual world, you can pay for it with a cam or dating site, pretend you have it with a little porn or actually find a real person if your lurking skills are up to par.

If this is the modern relationship timeline… what the future holds?

2008 AVN Award Winners

May 22, 2008

Best all-girl release :

Title : Girlvana

Company: Zero Tolerance Entertainment

Best anal sex scene

Title: Big Wet Asses 10

Company: Elegant Angel Production

Best animated:

Title: Night Shift Nurses, Experiment 1 & 2

Company: Adult Source Media

Best classic DVD

Title: Debby Does Dallas; Definitive Collector’s Edition

Company: VCX

Best Ethnic-themed Release:

Title: Anabolic Asians 5

Company: Anabolic Video

Best Music:

Title: Afrodite Superstar

Company: Femme Chocolat/ Adam and Eve pictures

Best Sex Comedy:

Title: Operation: Desert Stormy

Company: Wicked Pictures

Hook Ups Mix Tape

May 17, 2008

sexandtheuniversity.muxtape.com

Lovers and exlovers are some of the greatest muses for music writers. This is my mix dedicated to new and old lovers. Songs inspired by love

Hook Ups Mix Tape


Wintersleep – Listen [Listen, Listen]

“I will love you till the day my heart dies”

“There’s something in the way our lips touch,
there’s something in the way we’re stuck together
and they don’t build love like that no more.”

www.wintersleep.com

The Velvet Underground – I’m Sticking With You
“Im sticking with you
cos Im made out of glue
Anything that you might do
Im gonna do too”

You might recognize this song from the juno soundtrack.

More info on The velvet underground

Wilco – Reservations

“Oh I’ve got reservations
about so many things
but not about you”

www.wilcoworld.net


Ben Folds – The Luckiest

“I love you more than I have ever found a way to say to you”
“And in a white sea of eyes,I see one pair that I recognize,And I know,That I am,I am,I am,The luckiest”

www.benfolds.com

The Faders – No Sleep Tonight
“I got you, i got you on my mind,And it’s time to make you see (what i want),So i’ll just make this a little more obvious,Cuz i get what i want, and i want you to get with me!”

More info on The Faders

The Ergs – Kind of Like Smitten

A personal favorite song of mine. I only dream of a boy writing a song like this for me. The lyrics are adorable.

“Last night when you said, I was your favorite person in the whole wide world,I almost lost myself, You said, “You don’t even know”,And it was so amazing, God, I’m so in love with you”

The ergs myspace

Food for Lovers

May 17, 2008

Eating right is a goal in itself. But if you need another reason to eat healthy:

Fats and oils contain Vitamin E: studies on rats and mice showed that a diet without vitamin E would lead to impotence in males and miscarriages in females. When the levels are restored, the symptoms are reversed. Choose healthy fats (olive oil in salad dressing, fish), not deep fried chicken and chips.

Grapes/wine contain resveratrol: mice on a resveratrol diet can solve mazes (you know what I mean…!) better than those who drank strong alcohol instead. Resveratrol in wine also alters the structure of beta-amyloid, which is the compound that deposits in the brain in high levels in Alzheimer’s disease, so that it accumulates to a lesser level.

Fruits and vegetables contain anti-oxidants: less fat deposition in the blood vessels. Bad circulation, lumpy erection.

Chocolate, of course. Contains phenylethylamine: this compound is related to falling in love. Also found in peanuts. Moreover, chocolate increases the amount of Nitric Oxyde, which induces vasodilatation and thus triggers erection: the same principle as Viagra, which was originally developed as a muscle relaxant. But you would have to eat a fat load of chocolate! You might also want to know that chocolate and marijuana share some chemistry: the chemical anandamide in chocolate fits the same receptor as the active ingredient in pot. Cassanova used to eat chocolate before… well, anytime of the day.

No Meat: was believed to be sexually inflammatory by Dr. John Harvey Kellogg (the Frosted Flakes guy). This is a very general affirmation, however, you should know that Dr Kellogg introduced sports as a way of being healthy and offered light therapy against depression (which is a proven clinical method). He believed that meat would rob the body of energy necessary for health.

No carbs: Some Italian women say that ‘if you want your man to perform, don’t feed him pasta’. Or rice, potatoes, bread, etc. While the common belief is that carbs give you fast energy (which they do), the fact is that sugars release tryptophan, which enhances the brain’s ability to absorb serotonin, which relaxes you. And your penis.

Every aspect counts… looking forward to your tales of success.

Deal breakers

May 14, 2008

according to urban dictionary a deal breaker is
” A deal breaker is ‘the catch’ that a particular individual cannot overlook and ultimately outweighs any redeeming quality the individual may possess. ”

some of my deal breakers are..

-Height. guys must be taller than me by at least a foot.
-Shoes. i hate bad shoes
-Living with their mom/parents
-Bad taste in music

What are some of yours?

Male Enhancement Procedures Part III

May 13, 2008

For Do-it-yourself type of guys… I found this thing on the Internet. You can judge by yourself of its worth.

Warm-up exercise:
– Obtain a small hand towel, wet this hand towel using warm/hot water.
– Place the hand towel around your penis.
– Wet the towel again to keep the warmth. Leave the hand towel on the penis for 2-3 minutes.
– Temporarily discard of the towel and perform workout (below)
– When workout is finished re-heat the towel.
– Apply the towel to the penis for another 2-3 minutes.
– Always use the same towel for hygiene reasons. (What hygiene reasons, I don’t know…)

Doing this exercise for the first time, it may be a little strange and slightly painful in the onset of application but will disappear in a few seconds. This warm-up exercise is IMPORTANT and should be done before and after the main exercise that will be given below.

The Long Shlong Basic: The Stretching Exercise
– Grasp the tip of your penis firmly, below the head.
– Pull it out in front of you and hold for 15 seconds.
– Repeat for the desired number of reps.
– Relax and gently massage head of penis.
– Stretch penis to right and hold for 15 seconds.
– Relax and massage head of penis.
– Stretch penis to left and hold for 15 seconds.
– Always repeat for desired number of reps.

A few reminders for this exercise:
If you have a foreskin, you should pull it back before pulling your penis. Remember that it is the penis that we want to stretch not the skin. After completing this exercise once, repeat the steps only this time, pulling your penis to the left instead of pulling it to the right when stretching. You should have a detailed workout plan or get a custom workout plan so you can organize your activities well. Feeling a good amount of stretch on your penis after this exercise is normal and healthy so there is nothing to worry and it’s a sign of penile enhancement. This should be done accordingly without exaggeration, as it could lead to penile damage. Though this is a natural method, we are not liable for any danger that may occur if you don’t follow the procedures carefully. Responsibility should be carried out at all times during this exercise.

I don’t know…personally, I don’t pretend I’m making my vagina grow bigger when I masturbate.

Talk Nerdy to Me?

May 12, 2008

Many people have written books on dating and romance. How to meet someone at a bar, How to romance the pants off of a significant other and many many others.

Recently I discovered a book on Amazon called “I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating ”. The best part about amazon is that you can buy them used for $5. I almost can’t remember what dating was like before the Internet. How would you get to know someone? Talk to them in person?…HA! Our world has evolved from giving out your phone number to giving your MSN contact and adding them to Facebook with an ever so ironic and clever “poke”.

The magical world of the Internet has opened a Pandora’s box in the dating world. It can be the worst thing for relationships and hearts or it can be one of the greatest tools in the history of flirting.

The e-world is filled with all kinds of Internet relationships. From single serving sessions of love to people getting married over IRC (believe it or not but that couple is now celebrating their 12th wedding anniversary). We are a world filled with all kinds of lonely people. Some more than others, but granted we are all looking for some sort of connection… romantic or not. Hiding behind a screen allows a safe and secure place to be yourself or who ever you want to be. Craigslist personal connections or word of war craft are two great examples. They say the Internet was originally created for the military… well I think that’s a lie. I think the Internet was created for all the awkward people of the world to unite. Eventually it evolved into not only a tool for the awkward and nerdy but a place for our entire generation to socialize virtually.

With a tool that allows people to interact in such an easy fashion comes huge problems. Dating websites, pay cam/internet porn, and online networking sites have developed into a billion dollar industry because we’re constantly searching for a greater connection.

Facebook, Msn and Myspace seem to be three of the most popular forms of communication for my age group. I’ve seen many relationships grow and some of them crumble using these tools. It all starts with some casual flirting and maybe a comment on a picture or something of the sort. It then eventually grows into messages everyday and comments on profiles. Their friends add you and eventually you start to spend more time in person together and going out on group outings. Before you know it a relationship has evolved. Then the greatest event of the modern relationship happens “The Status Change”. These days nothing is really official until its announced to the virtual world you are “now listed as in a relationship”. Every thing runs smoothly until there are other interesting people that get added to the friends list. More comments happen, more messages and before you know it the poison of the Internet sets in. It comes in the form of jealousy, uncertainty and curiosity. These new people are coming into your partners life the same way you did. Do you trust them?

Relationships are more and more easy to find online, whether it’s long distance, in your home town, or by the minute… anyone can feel like they are special to someone from the comfort of their own home. Is the temptation too much? Can the modern relationship survive modern technology?

Sue Johanson

May 12, 2008

Sue Johanson has been educating our vast nation about sex for over 30+ years in a very straight forward and direct manner. She is truely a great Canadian icon and will be missed by many in the wee hours of the morning. She has finally decided to end her tv career but will still continue to make public appearances. Watch her last episode will air on May 11th 2008. (tonight).

http://www.cbc.ca/mrl3/8752/news/features/graham-sex-sue-080509.wmv

http://www.cbc.ca/arts/tv/story/2008/05/07/talk-sex.html

Male Enhancement Procedures Part II

May 9, 2008

Pills
Contaminants found included mold, yeast, dangerous E. coli bacteria, pesticides, and lead. But then again, those contaminants are pretty much in everything that also does not make penises bigger. Remember, it’s not because a pill is labelled ‘natural’ that it means it’s safe. E. coli is natural.

Penis pump
A penis pump is a tube in which you put your penis, you then pump up a vacuum inside which makes blood flow into your penis. You then put on a penis ring so the blood will stay inside your penis. This will allow your erection to last while having sex.

Downsides: obviously not permanent, might get blisters on the penis (probably on your fingers too), damaged capillaries from overuse, temporary impotence. Oh yeah, and that’s not to make the penis bigger, it’s to make it actually stiff. It’s like Viagra, except it doesn’t work:

A study was published in the British Journal of Urology International in 2006: A group of men with small penises willing to use penis pumps three times a week, for twenty minutes each session, over a period of six months. A clinically tested vacuum erection device was used, not a sex shop product. At the end of the study there was an average increase of 0.3 centimeters, which is not statistically significant. But even though this average increase is minor, 30% said they were satisfied with the “treatment”.

Smart alternative
Trimming pubic hair will make the penis look bigger.

For overweight men, losing weight will have the same effect.

But it’s not just looks, it’s what’s on the inside that counts…

Right? or Right now?

May 7, 2008

I seem to know a lot of people who never seem to ever be single. They jump from relationship to relationship without any sort of leeway. Which makes me wonder… are they just settling for “mr./miss Right now?” Do they just not want to be alone so much that they stay with someone who is not really suited for the future? Are they aware of the situation?
What about you? Do you see a future with your partner?

This poll is 100% anonymous.
Do you Feel you are with Mr/Miss. Right? or Right Now?

Male Enhancement Procedures Part I

May 6, 2008

Surgical Interventions

Length enhancement : division of the penile suspensory ligament.
According to the European Urology Journal, vol. 49 issue 4: ‘’The mean increase was 1.3 cm, ranging from −1 to +3cm, with the addition of a silicone spacer placed between the pubis and penis giving a better outcome. The overall patient satisfaction rate was 35%’’ Their conclusion being that this ‘may increase penile length but usually not to a degree that satisfies the patient. Men often have unrealistic expectations regarding the outcome of surgical intervention and should be encouraged to seek psychological help primarily, with surgery reserved as the last resort’.

Girth enlargement: tissue culture:

Alloderm is an acellular dermal matrix derived from donated human skin tissue supplied by tissue banks under the standards of the American Association of Tissue Banks (AATB). It leaves no residual foreign tissue around the penis after reabsorption by the body. The USA Food and Drug Administration (FDA) regulates its use and has nor approved AlloDerm as a “void filler” nor for “cosmetic augmentation”.Obviously, it’s not an obstacle for cosmetic surgeons to use it.

Downsides: effectively irreversible, may have side effects including loss of sensation, scarring, deformation AND inability to perform penetrative intercourse. But I’m sure you can still pee.

Asexually confused?

May 5, 2008

We live in a world where there is such a flood of labels that have migrated to the bedroom. Metrosexual, asexual, bi-curious, bi, homosexual, heterosexual, promiscuous… hell I’ve even heard someone call themselves heteroflexible.

In the past year one of my dearest Montreal friends started to make jokes about how I was asexual. She did this because I had not been pursuing any guys in a long time. I just laughed and thought it was ridiculous. A month later I found out some more friends thought I was asexual. Which got me thinking – what is asexuality?

According to Wiki the definition of Asexuality is a sexual orientation describing individuals who do not experience sexual attraction.

I never really thought about asexuality until it was brought to my attention. What gives people the impression that someone is asexual? Granted I am not always searching for sex and currently single but does that make me a case study for asexuality? I am sexually attracted to many guys, however I don’t feel the need to act on it in every circumstance. Is this why people assume my sexual orientation ? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think asexual is a horrible thing. I really don’t care about other peoples sexuality. I just never considered myself classified as asexual until people started to mention it to me.

Wikipedia claims that “many asexuals do have sex” and “An asexual person may have a latent sexuality that will be awakened by a suitable romantic or sexual partner. This is commonly phrased as “not having met the right person””. When did someone looking for the right person who they are sexually attracted to have its own label? So what happens when they meet the right person? Are they no longer asexual?

We sleep around to much we are considered promiscuous…. we look for the right person to have sex with that really turns us on and we are considered asexual? What ever happen to the label of just being ‘single’. Why can’t we just enjoy our single lives with out people giving us labels trying to explain our behaviors for wanting a single life. I am convinced these terms are made up by people in normal sexual relationships where doing it from behind is ‘wild’ in their books. People who can’t understand how someone lives their lives with out the routine of a relationship.

Asexual or not I will just stick to my heterosexual single label. Its a good life. I am usually single because I want to be and enjoy the easiness of it all. I am a relationship masochist so being single is just a much more drama free pleasant lifestyle… This doesn’t mean the idea of a sexual partner is not always in the back of my mind.

Heading South – Blinding Lust in a Sexual Paradise Lost

May 2, 2008

If you’re looking for something exotic but not clichéed, read Dany Lafferrière’s Vers Le Sud. It takes a steamy look at the sex tourism industry in Haiti during Jean-Claude “Baby Doc” Duvalier’s oppressive regime in the late 1970s. But more than that, this politically pointed film contemplates the darker social undercurrents beneath a seemingly benign example of sexual tourism. Read it, and we can discuss if sex workers have agency, or are they the victims of a global sex industry? Is it wrong for a white middle-class woman to ‘come to paradise’ to fall in ‘love’ with a young sex worker, since she’s exchanging money, or is she still committing a crime and… pedophilia? The vision that the book offers is one of a passionate crime to commit over and over again. And it is way above consensual. The characters are complex, fully realized, and most of all, memorable.

Dany Lafferière also wrote Comment faire l’amour avec un Nègre sans se fatiguer (How to make love with a black man without getting physically tired)

Here’s an abstract of Heading South. Good porn enhanced by a good story.

Certains peuvent demeurer le même homme dans une église comme dans un bordel. Albert, par exemple. Some men can remain the same in the church as in a whore house. Albert, for example.

De toute façon, on ne peut pas empêcher un cœur d’aimer. Surtout un corps. Un corps, c’est pire encore qu’un cœur, Fanfan. Anyway, you cannot keep a heart from loving. Especially a body. A body is worst than a heart, Fanfan.

If you’re the type who watches the action but does not listen to the dialog during movies:

Il paraît qu’ils se sont battus toute la nuit. Il lui résistait. Elle était déchaînée. Cette jeune fille si délicate. Elle pleurait. Elle le griffait à la poitrine, elle le frappait au visage de toute sa force, elle l’insultait, elle mendiait une caresse, elle quémandait un baiser, elle le menaçait de hurler et de faire croire qu’il tentait de la violer, elle pleurait de toutes les larmes de son corps, elle le suppliait de la prendre. Lui, il n’était pas insensible à la luminosité de ce fragile corps blanc, si rare dans la case d’un nègre, mais il savait aussi que s’il cédait, c’était la mort qui l’attendait au lever du jour. Plus il résistait, plus son désir à elle devenait violent. Finalement, un peu avant l’aube, il entra en elle, et elle hurla tout en enfonçant son poing dans sa propre bouche. Il s’est endormi sur elle tout de suite après. Imaginez : un esclave et une jeune fille blanche.