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Red Hot

You’ve heard/looked for the yellow showers, the fecal fantasies. Yet another bodily fluid stays with what belongs with the distorted, alongside fucking  horses and dying from it, pedophilia, and rape (although it’s a very common fantasy amongst women- more on that later) ; that-time-of-the-month, or what my friend affectionately calls Nintendo-week.

So you have the extreme fetishist who’ll look for women drinking blood from a dripping tampon over their mouth. They’ll marvel at overflowed maxipads, stained white panties, and everything that red sex is not.  

Here comes Freud    
So why obsess over such a gross thing as feminine hygiene products gone… unhygienic? Of what I remember of my psych classes, fetish objects serve the function of blocking some trauma by… distorting and amplifying. A single thing of the whole captures the attention of someone in immaturity and sticks with him as he grows- it could be high heels, white panties, unshaved armpits, rubber swim caps. I leave it to your imagination what could have triggered menstruation fetish, but I’d venture to say that Freud would mention the return to the Origins; a bloody vagina.     

In porn, the guys don’t seem to care about the mess, and the girls look more than comfortable. Oral sex is still done. But often, the blood comes from a tea bag inserted into the actress’ vagina. 

Why the taboo? 
Then, why don’t actresses do it when they’re actually having their period? Why hide… a quarter of a woman’s sex life? (for those unlucky for whom it lasts the said week).You’ll reckon that even feminine hygiene product advertising avoids mentioning menstruation by pouring a blue liquid on the sanitary item to demonstrate its absorptiveness.Many religions have traditions that might have contributed to the stigma. In orthodox Judasim and Islam, there’s a ban on sex during menstruation. Some traditional societies sequester females in “menstrual huts”. In Hinduism, a woman cannot be part of religious ceremonies for the first 4 days of the cycle. And I remember when I was in India, the woman who usually cooked for us was not allowed in the kitchen during her period… all she was allowed to do was the cleaning.The only non-X movies I’ve seen that mention menstruation is in My Girl, when Vada gets her first period, she only gets explained about it off camera. Or in Carrie… I remember her first period as the starting point of her telekinisis which led… to murder. No need to say that overcoming the menstrual taboo is hot debate amongst feminists.

 In Menstruation: Porn’s Last Taboo, Trixie Fontaine, camgirl, complains “i was determined that my porn site be honest about me, my sexuality, and my body- how could my site be genuine and real if I ignored and hid the fluid coursing through my cunt once a month?”

On her main page (bloodytrixie.com), you can read “Most porn shows us living our sexual lives as though our periods don’t exist sending the message that bleeding is not natural or sexy. I insist that it’s every woman’s right to be sexual . . . no matter HOW messy her pussy!!! Cyclical bleeding can be beautiful, sensual, freeing, fascinating and fun. I hope you enjoy my unique red gift to you! –Trixie”

Ok fine, there’s looking for period porn, and there’s just doing it. I mean, our hormones don’t just disappear during that time. I guess it’s even more of a reflex to type golden showers or poop show on youporn then to marvel at the monthly shedding of the endometrium and how messy it can get if you want it to be. I’d risk the hypothesis that the only experience that men have with blood is pain and injuries, and that’s why they’re so turned off. But as Trixie would say, isn’t menstruation the ‘sexiest’ of bodily excretions? It does come out directly of the vagina. Although it’s possible that guys might relate more with urine.

Period sex can be good and clean, or messy if you want it to be. Trixie: “I wanted to display my period as fresh, free-flowing, messy puddle of fun, not just something to be stifled and absorbed by a piece of garbage”.

I’ll admit that I’ve never had a sexual fondness for my period. I’ve cursed at it plenty of times. Although it’s kinda reassuring when it comes. I remember being so thin that I wouldn’t even get my period, and I remember missing it- I didn’t feel as much of a woman. While the blood doesn’t bring any comfort and carries some odor, and I can’t say I want to fingerpaint in it,  I definitely find it more natural than, let’s say, the ever-popular stuff that camgirls have to do…extreme penetration shows, bukkake, fucking themselves with beer cans and baseball bats. That stuff you wouldn’t find gross before trying it, so… try this, tell me what you think.

by Vanessa Tiegs. Collected her menstrual blood throughout 36 periods in a moon cup

Women on the Pill Choose Wrong Sex Partners

The criteria that identifies a right sex partner, according to biology, (obviously I don’t have my say in this), is that he/she has the most different genetic makeup.

Quickie on genetics: 
Having two genetically different parents increases the chance for healthy offspring: for each gene, a zygote (formed when a spermatozoid reaches the ovula) receives a copy from his mom, and one from his dad. If both copies carry the same mutation (homozygotes) recessive diseases will express. So the parents might have been only carriers, but the baby will be affected by the disease. Whereas if the mom is a carrier but the dad isn’t, the baby is a heterozygote: he ends up only being a carrier.

But birth control pill makes women desire the wrong men… according to a recent U.K study published in Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences. “If this really happens in the real world, women on the pill would end up choosing a more genetically similar mate than she would otherwise choose and the implications go on from there,” study researcher S. Craig Roberts, PhD

In an earlier U.S. study, women who were genetically similar to their partners reported being less satisfied in their sexual relationship with their partner — and were seeking more new sex partners — than were women with genetically dissimilar partners.

Animal studies show that female mammals can smell out males whose MHC genes are different from their own. MHC genes affect important immune responses. By mating with males who have different MHC genes, females give their offspring a better disease-fighting repertoire.Rachel Herz, PhD, author of The Scent of Desire and a faculty member at Brown University, says there is a real connection between body odor, MHC, and the mates a woman chooses. Hence the T-shirt-sniffing studies. Herz and her team paid 37 women to smell men’s T-shirts before and after going on the pill. Then they compared the women’s before- and after-pill ratings of the odors to the control group 60 women not on the pill. The result: After taking the pill, women shifted toward preferring genetically similar men. Women who did not take the pill slightly increased their preference for genetically different men.
    

Possible explanation?           
In animals, when females become pregnant, they start to prefer scent of males with similar genetics. This may allow them to seek out males that will help them protect and raise the baby. And since the Pill makes your body think it’s pregnant (with progesterone, which is secreted by the amniotic sac in pregnant women), it would have the same effect.    

what i have to add:
I went off the pill twice in the last 4 years. The first time, my (male) ex and I broke up and I ended up with a girl. As far as I know, my ex and I had the most dissimilar genetics you could find. The second time… after a whisky dick and a totally EDed partner… well I haven’t had sex in a month.

Then again, an important assumption in the study is that odours play a strong role in partner choice… more than performance? I ask. No, I answer. That’s why even off the Pill, I’m still attracted to those who made me want to start taking the Pill. What are your experiences? do you think odour is determinant to that point?

Finally, let’s just say that whatever the Pill does or doesn’t do to our tastes, without it, I couldn’t have had the luxury to marvel at all genetic variety, let alone sample it.

found this on a may 2007 post by blogger. On May 9, 1960 – the FDA (Food and Drug Administration, US)approved the first birth control pill.

 

Dangerous Dildos? the Phthalatophobia

Extract from erotica;

It had been a long day of a hundred different (photo shoot) poses and we were tired. “Let’s get that double dong and do an ass-to-ass shot” said the photographer right before his assistant handed me a red two-headed rubber dildo fresh out of its package, with that shiny film on it that many jelly toys have. As the head slipped inside, my ass suddenly felt like it was on fire. A burning sensation spread throughout my butt, and when I looked up at Chloe, who was waiting for her end, she said, “I know that look.”

The culprit: phthalates (ph is silent), a family of chemicals used to soften hard plastics to make them more flexible, used in toys for children, animals, and for sexual pleasure. Turns out that what makes them enjoyable also makes them toxic. PVC is not a stable inert compound, so these toys continuously leach phthalates- causing a greasy, shiny and bad-smelling film, and genital burning, itching- like the burning sensation up monologuer’s butt. Plus, these toys are porous, unlike silicone, glass or metal, so they cannot be completely disinfected. Phthalate molecules are not chemically bound to the plastics they soften, and as such, phthalates can “break free” from plastic fairly easily, causing rubber and jelly toys to deteriorate over time. Not exactly suited for your body’s most sensitive, absorbent areas.

Phtalates are also… everywhere: in cosmetics, perfume, body lotion, deodorant, nail polish, carpeting, flooring tile, plastic raincoats, and medical devices. In studies on rodents, high levels of phthalates have been linked to reproductive organ damage, liver, lung and kidney damage and liver cancer. Also linked; premature breast development in girls (some studies suggest that phthalates mimic estrogen), low sperm count or motility in men, and damage to developing testes. Also, it appears that a high level in a pregnant woman’s blood is linked with a smaller anogenital index=distance between anus and genitals, in male newborns. Although, I can’t see how that could be problematic.

In 1998, Canada took children’s rattles, teethers, and dog chew –toys made with phthalates off the shelves. Phthalates are widely banned in 14 countries around the globe, including several European countries, Japan, Argentina and Mexico. But Trevor Buttworth of STATS (Statistical Assessment Service) says “This is not a public health crisis”. He adds:  “To ingest phthalates from an adult toy, one would have to – and there’s no way of putting this delicately – masticate on a toy for several hours a day on a daily basis; even then, there is no evidence that this would be toxic to your health. Such behavior would, however, suggest that you have other, more significant, problems.”

It is true that mice and rats on these studies are exposed to enormous amounts of phthalates. It is debatable to what extent we can draw conclusions from animal testing, but that’s how science got this far.

Since testing on humans would be unethical in this case, I would rather not take chances. There hasn’t been any research on whether phthalates can permeate latex condoms when used on sex toys. A Greenpeace statement: “Remember, these are chemicals which do not easily biodegrade and can be dangerous – even in small amounts.”

Sex toys are not regulated by any agency- companies are not required to list a toy’s components. So incorrect labelling from “hypoallergenic dildo” to “silicone toys” is often misleading. In those instances, the government should have business in the bedrooms of the nation.  As a general rule, the more that a toy smells like a new shower curtain, the more phthalates it contains. So what’s a tree-hugging dildo-loving girl to do? 

Have no fear. A new generation of companies dedicated to research and development, like Tantus, are selling top-quality eco-friendly products. Aaand they’re dishwasher safe! Prices usually start around 50 well-spent dollars. For these proactive manufacturers, quality prevails over making a fast buck. So that without someone you trust/pretend to trust, you can still have your fast fuck with something you can trust. I’m not hyping environmentally friendly sex toys, or anything eco-friendly for that matter; go ride your Hummer in your fur coat, leather boots and aerosol-sprayed hair while leaving the lights on, I’m not here to judge. I’m advocating for schedule-free, ED-free  safe bedroom activity. And you can say you’re doing it for the seals.

Q & A Quickie Crash Course

Q.Can you really tell how big a guy is by the size of his hands or feet?

A. No

 

Q. Should I be worried that my partner’s penis curves to one side when erect?

A. some congenital curvature is normal (although puzzling, I personally find) However, if it hurts him, he may have Peyronie’s disease known colloquially as “bent nail syndrome” and should consult a doctor. The underlying cause of is thought to be trauma or injury to the penis usually through sexual activity

 

Q. Can you pass a yeast infection to your partner?

A. Yes

 

Q. Can you pass on/get infected with an STD as a result of kissing?
A. No, you cannot pass on or become infected with an STD as a result of kissing. However, you could pass on a cold sore (herpes simplex, HSV1) to your partner through kissing.

 

Q. What can worsen vaginal dryness?

A. decongestants, anti-histamines (like Claritin, Reactin), low estrogen level.

 

Q. Are condoms still effective underwater?

A. companies do not test their products underwater, so there’s no assurance they’ll hold up.

 

Q. What if he doesn’t like the taste down there?

A. foods like garlic and asparagus might make you slightly more pungent. Fruits like pineapple may sweeten you up.

 

Q. Is there such a thing as blue balls?

A. prolonged frustrated erections can cause discomfort in the testicles and perineum… but not pain.

 

Q. Should a guy take Viagra if he doesn’t need to?

A. the long-term effects are not fully known, but psychological dependence is a more than  possible outcome.

 

Q. A guy can have an orgasm without ejaculating. T or F?

A.  T.

Airplane Passengers Can Now Choose Between Pat-Down and Body Scanners

In US airports including Washington, Dallas, Las Vegas, Albuquerque, Miami and Detroit, body scanners are being installed. Instead of being patted down as is custom, travellers selected randomly can choose to be shut in the glass booths while a 3D image is made of their body beneath their clothes. In Europe, Amsterdam’s Schipol airport is already using the scanners. They allow the security screeners to examine the images in a separate room. According to the Transport Safety Authority of the States, “millimetre waves” that go through cloth will detect and show metal, plastics, ceramics, chemical materials and explosives. As well as the passenger’s full body details: such as evidence of mastectomies, colostomy appliances, penile implants, catheter tubes and the size of their breasts or genitals. “You can actually see the sweat on someone’s back,” said James Schear, the Transport Security Administration security director at Baltimore-Washington International Airport, where two body scanners are in use at one checkpoint.The passenger’s privacy is however protected since the image will only show their blurred face. Furthermore, the images are one-time use: they can neither be stored, transmitter nor printed. 

The TSA effort could encourage scanners’ use in rail stations, arenas and office buildings, the American Civil Liberties Union said. “This may well set a precedent that others will follow,” said Barry Steinhardt, head of the technology project.

The passenger can however refuse the use of the machine and submit to an old-fashioned pat-down. Early reactions amongst passenger include blunt refusal, intrigued, reassured and occasionally wary. Thirty machines should be installed across the US by the end of 2008. “Most passengers don’t think it’s any big deal,” Schear said. “They think it’s a piece of security they’re willing to do.”

Obviously, some rights activists are making a big deal out of this, saying that personal privacy is jeopardized. One more thing for them to complain about. Sometimes, you have to choose between safety and prudism-  like when you go to the doctor’s. I just wonder which the Republicans would pick. 

 

Ask not what your partner can do for you, but what YOU can do for your partner

Condoms Campaigns Over the World

The Great American Condom Campaign. Do it for your Country is one of their slogans.

 

In Berlin. You have to know that Berlin’s coat of arms is a bear.
(Bärchen=little bears. gummi=condoms. gummi, bårchen=condoms, Berliners)

American Beauty-esque add by Government of Brazil, targetting young gay men

created by the Commonwealth Department of Community Services and Health in Australia

 and my favorite,

 “No sexual act is more death-defying than sex without protection. Don’t put yourself in that position. — Pi Kappa Phi.” based on an ancient Central Indian painting first published in 1883 in the Kama Sutra of Vatsyavana